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The last of the Thanksgiving leftovers are gone. The turkey platter and fancy serving dishes are returned to the deep recesses of the china cabinet. Right about now is when I turn my attention towards Christmas. For all of the plan-ahead, shop-all-year-long, and decorate-the-tree-at-the-start-of-November people, I am sorry if my procrastination unnerves you. Not to worry, I got this! I have years of experience pulling it all together in under four weeks. I am actually right on schedule for my holiday calendar.
I kick off the season by lugging up the four pieces of our beautiful artificial tree. To my friends that put fresh cut trees in their living rooms, my hat is off to you. Been there, done that. Around 12 years ago I made the leap to artificial trees for Christmas. Maybe it had something to do with the move from Connecticut to Virginia. All of my friends and neighbors here have lovely perfectly shaped well lit trees. Blue Spruce, Fraser Fir, Alpine Balsam Fir, Stratford Spruce, almost every variety of tree is available online or in a store near you. Miniature to 18 feet tall, frosted or natural green, with or without lights, white or multicolored, the choices are endless. Even though we already own a 9 foot pre-lit fake Fraser Fir tree from Lowe’s, I still peruse websites and catalogs looking at the various dreamlike winter wonderland focal points.
My childhood included an entirely different tradition. In Northern California, in mid-December my parents would load all four of us girls into the car and head to the local Christmas tree lot run by the Boy Scout troop. Rows and rows of freshly cut trees lined the gravel parking lot. It was a pop-up forest perfect for playing hide and seek. We chased and ran and hid, while my parents shopped around.
My dad held his arm out to a tree, “How about this one? Or this one?”
“Hmmm, too bushy. No, that one is tilted off kilter.”
I am not saying that my mom was picky, or that my dad was impatient, but both of them wanted to find “the one.” Because somewhere in that Boy Scout staffed pop-up parking lot forest was the Papini Christmas tree for 1978. A thorough examination of the inventory was necessary until they found the right one. Then after a quick search for us giggling girls, they proclaimed, “This is the tree!”
I remember those tree finding days from my childhood fondly. It was a tradition I continued with my husband. The two of us loved picking out the fresh pine smelling tree that we could afford on our newlywed budget and could fit in our small family room of our townhouse. Whatever tree we brought home from the lot was perfectly grown just for us. A little daily water in the base, and it kept fresh through New Years Day. Nothing firms up the feeling of starting a life together as much as trimming your first tree (real or faux).
As the years passed and our family grew, so did the size of our trees. Bigger each year. Our tradition with the kids was similar to my upbringing. My husband and I discussed pros and cons of different tree varieties, as our four kids darted between and behind the bushy rows of greenery. The kids squealed with excitement as the tree was loaded on top of the car and strapped down. Then after the tied up tree was carried into the house, it was a dramatic moment of untethering and the release of all the splendor of branches reaching out into the room. I always loved the bare tree, fresh with natural pine scent, and ready for adornment. “You were selected to be here with us, and now we are going to make you part of our Christmas.”
The not-so-fun and sometimes-even-frustrating part of tree trimming is the hanging of lights. The untangling of the strings. The tiny white bulbs burnt out and finding which ones needed replacing. The circling light strings onto the tree with a bit of backseat driving from the onlookers. But “Wa La!” once illumination is complete the decorating can commence!
I am a fan of sentimental ornaments even if that means the odd looking yarn and bean “what the heck is that” ones the kids made at school. Over the years I always added some ornaments related to the kids’ interests: piano, football, volleyball, Spiderman, jimmy neutron, Chewbacca. Then there are the fancy fragile angels that hang out-of-reach at the top of the tree. Long ago, I gave up on the idea of gorgeous glass balls, opting instead for the more durable unbreakable plain silver and gold plastic (expensive looking) cheap balls. This is what works best with four children, two cats and two dogs. And there you have it: the Freudenthal tree for the Christmas season!
In every house we lived in, and there were more than a handful, it was important to select the right location for the tree. Next to the window? At the bottom of the staircase? In the formal living room or the cozy family room? I even remembering touring homes for sale and wondering, “Now where would the Christmas tree go?” My parents kept the tree at the same place on top of a low table in front of the same windows every year. The tradition of Christmas trees is a special one. My only problem with having a real tree is that in a matter of just a few weeks pine needles dropped and branches drooped, signaling an end to another Christmas season. Something about the dried dying tree after the holidays makes me sad. It served its purpose, bringing joy to our home as we celebrate the birth of Jesus. It also was the backdrop for gathering, gift exchanging, and tradition.
As I sit across the living room from our tree, I do not smell the pine needles. The triangular shape is perfect, each wired branch bent into place. The assembly took less than an hour. All I had to do was walk down into the basement to retrieve the pieces, then attach in the right order and manually fold out each of the small needled twigs stemming out from the branches. Plug in the cord and instantly the green tree is aglow with white lights. “Sounds so special, right?” I ask with Bah Humbug sarcasm. It actually still is, faux fir and all.
Last week I contemplated going back to our old tradition of heading to the tree lot and buying a real genuine freshly cut fir. I brought up the idea to my husband whose response was less enthusiastic. “But why would we do that when we have a great looking tree in the basement that we bought two years ago when you wanted to move from a 7 foot tree to a 9 foot tree? That wasn’t cheap. And trees are expensive, and messy.” He is right. A pine scented candle can solve the nostalgic aura. Once all of the sentimental ornaments are hung, the tree transforms our home. Christmas is coming.
Soon colorful patterned gift wrapped boxes and bags will accumulate under the tree (I better start shopping). Sugar cookies shaped like stars, angels and reindeer will bake in the oven. Alexa will play music from Michael Buble, Mariah Carey, Alvin and the Chipmunks, Nat King Cole, and Bing Crosby. Malls will get crowded with shoppers (I better get out there). Friends will gather in ugly sweaters. Family will gather in matching pajamas (I actually already ordered those for this year). And the Amazon truck will come up the driveway (I really better start shopping). The Advent Calendar tiny numbered doors are waiting to be opened one by one. Plenty of time. I am not stressed.
“It’s beginning to look a lot like Christmas,” was and is one of my favorite songs. But it is also a tune that I am not ready to hear until it is time. Now is the time! The tree trimming is just the beginning. The final touch is to hang the star. And we mustn’t forget, to hide the pickle!